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Turning Regrets Into Lessons Learned

Turning Regrets Into Lessons Learned

Our journey on this earth is a series of lessons and triumphs. We make a lot of great decisions (and many bad ones), but all the choices that we have made have led us to be the empathetic, understanding people that we are today. There is a story going around about a woman regretting that she stayed at home with her kids and didn’t continue working. After I read the article I thought about all the moms out there that walk around with regrets. Regrets about staying at home, regrets about working, regrets about staying in an unhealthy marriage, regrets about not being patient with their children . . . and the list goes on and on and on.

What is the point of continuing to hold onto our regrets? If the reason is that you don’t want to do it again, why not change your ways and move on? Regrets are burdens – they carry weight keeping you from moving on to bigger and better things.    

Regrets are simply punishments that we place on ourselves. But aren’t we already paying the price of the mistake we made by not having the outcome that we wanted? Why punish ourselves with regret? If you regret something you did to another person (like your children), then change your ways today. Replace old behaviors with new ones and teach your children to live life to the fullest.

Our life experiences make us who we are and our mistakes can actually be a good thing. Mistakes are our “lessons learned” and make us grow and become better people. The most successful people have made the biggest mistakes, so I challenge you to embrace your journey that has made you the person you are and turn your regrets into "lessons learned."

Toni Langdon is a stay-at-home mom of two daughters and an in-home child care provider. She is a black belt in martial arts and has worked with Chester County, PA children with special needs. This post is adapted from her blog, Tickles and Time Outs.

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Outstanding Delaware Valley mom bloggers share insights about their kids or themselves, family experiences or ways they handled parenting situations. Their items — often reposted from their blogs — reflect everyday experiences that anyone can relate to rather than political viewpoints or belief systems.

MomSpeak Contributors

Trish Adkins, Yoke
Jennifer Auer, Jersey Family Fun
Stacy Heenan Biscardi, Wifty & Shifty
Hillary Chybinski, My Scraps
EJ Curran, Four Little Monsters
Darla DeMorrow, The Pregnant Entrepreneur
Rachée Fagg, Say It Rah-Shay
Raya Fagg, And Starring As Herself…MRSRFKJ
Erin Flynn Jay, Mastering the Mommy Track
Marion Kase, Helicopter-Caterpillar
Jean Ladden, Jean's Book Reviews
Brie Latini, ( . . . a breezy life)
Toni Langdon, Tickles and Time Outs
Lisa Lightner, A Day in Our Shoes
Jeanine Ludwikowski, Mommy Entourage
Jeanne McCullough, Mom Hearts Pinot
Trina O'Boyle, O’Boy! Organic
Kelly Raudenbush, My Overthinking
Sandra Telep, West Philly Mama
Marissa Kiepert Truong, Land of Once Upon a Time
Lisa Weinstein, The Mixed Up Brains of Lisa Weinstein
Shivaun Williams, Dar Liomsa (In My Opinion)
Paige Wolf, Spit That Out!

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