No Jacket Required?
Why won't my kid wear a winter coat? MK readers sound off on this cold-weather hot topic!
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As parents of tweens and teens know too well, after the age of 10 or 11 traditional winter coats are just not cool. Who hasn’t seen kids stand at the school-bus corner when it’s 40° or below, shivering in shorts and a thin-looking shirt? (And who hasn’t thought, “What kind of mom lets a kid go out in this cold without a coat?”)
Why is pressing a middle or high schooler to put on something warm enough to weather, well, the weather a futile exercise? Common kid answers include:
- “A jacket doesn’t fit into a small locker.”
- “It’s too hot on the bus . . . in the halls . . . at my desk.”
- “We don’t go outside for lunch, I just have to run into and out of the school.” • “Bulky clothes are uncomfortable.”
- “No one can see my outfit under that thing.”
Is correcting your child’s no-jacket tendency a battle worth fighting? Parents and experts say: Probably not. Here’s why:
- Cold weather itself doesn’t cause colds. The rate of colds rises in winter because, as people huddle amid close indoor quarters, recycled air more readily spreads viruses and bugs released through coughs and sneezes.
- There’s a whole market of thinner outerwear options imbued with warming materials. You can find plenty of lightweight sweatshirts, hoodies and zipups lined with fleece, high-performance microfibers and waterproof Gore-Tex. Think Under Armour, North Face, Patagonia.
- Kids need to take ownership of their bodies and clothing. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, advises that parents allow teens to make their own decision on this front yet lead by example; don’t nag. When the weather warrants warm outerwear, say something like “ ‘I think it’s cold and I’m definitely wearing a jacket.’ ” Let your child know that the decision is hers, yet “ ‘I’m afraid that you will be cold once we are outside, and I won’t want you to have to come back to the house. How about I put your jacket in the backpack in case you change your mind?’ ”
- As potential power struggles go, this one’s easy to defuse. The less you fret about the lack of a jacket, the less your kid will be interested in pushing your buttons by not wearing one. Like all teen trends, this one will pass when he gets cold enough — or her favorite store comes out with the cutest coat imaginable. In other words, chill out