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Feb 13, 2012
08:37 AM

To Princess Dress or Not?

To Princess Dress or Not?

Scene from Disney's Cinderella

I heard from my mom today that one of her best friends found it shocking that friends of theirs made such a to-do over their daughter's dressing up.  She described how they spoiled her with princess gowns and toys and how she was shocked at how much of a fuss it was. That the little girl had Disney Princess costumes she wore in and out of the house, with tiaras to match. She was describing my daughter to a T.

My daughter's fashion sense is described by two words: pink and princess. If an outfit or item is not pink, it better have something princess on it. I can manage a blue outfit by calling it "Cinderella blue" or a yellow outfit by comparing it to "Belle's dress" but that is about as far as I can stretch it. She has always picked out her own clothes and loves to wear glitter, glitz and glam. While part of me secretly loves that she is such a diva, sometimes I have to wonder where to draw the line.

While part of me secretly loves that she is such a diva, sometimes I wonder where to draw the line.

This year, she was an angel in our church's Christmas pageant and the little girls were told to wear their fanciest outfit, ballet costume or princess dress. We were delighted. Long pondering gazes and questioning were done staring at her little closet where Rapunzel's, Cinderella's and Belle's costume dresses all hung. What to wear? Which one to choose? In the end, she was head over heels to be able to wear her dress, so the following Sunday she wore a different princess dress to Church. She looked glamorous and confident and I felt I was getting my "money's worth" since these fancy little dresses are not cheap.

As her mom, I feel these precious moments of childhood go too quickly and one (very, very sad) day she will grow older and no longer want to play princess. She will not be young enough to be able to call her sense of style "Princess chic." I love that she gets such enjoyment out of it and that it makes her so happy. On the other hand, it was hard to hear an outsiders viewpoint on how they viewed all this as excessive. Do you draw the line at wearing dress-up only in the home or allow your little princess to glam it up to her hearts delight? In this mom's opinion, everyone should wear a tiara every once in a while!  ;)

Jeanine Ludwikowski is a fun-loving mom of two living in the Philly burbs. You can follow her on Twitter @MommyEntourage. This post is adopted from her blog Mommy Entourage.

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Feb 13, 2012 11:24 am
 Posted by  julieot16

My daughter loves to dress up too! I think it is a natural part of being a child and exploring ways to be creative and develop their imagination! Personally I let her wear whatever she wants as long as it is weather-appropriate :) Great article Jeanine!

Feb 13, 2012 02:36 pm
 Posted by  evasmomma

Glam it up to your hearts content - and that goes for the littles ones and their moms! My daughter was BEYOND girly when she was little - now we are punk-rock chic! Read this article in the NYT - I couldn't agree more! http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/02/opinion/magazine-global-agenda-mommy-i-want-to-be-a-princess.html?pagewanted=all

Feb 13, 2012 05:40 pm
 Posted by  michellew_

I have one daughter who is a total princess and one who is the total opposite. While I wouldn't go out of my way to facilitate having a very girly girl, I just let them be themselves. Now, buying dresses and matching tiaras and all that too match- probably not gonna happen- unless Target is having a REALLY good sale!

Feb 13, 2012 07:29 pm
 Posted by  BATCave

As you said....they grow out of it way too quickly. I remember taking my toddler daughter shopping with me to pick out her clothes and as I held up 2 dresses for her to choose from getting glared at by other shoppers. I just shrugged my shoulders. I knew it wasn't worth the battle that would ensue if I picked an outfit she didn't like. This girl would ONLY wear dresses and she meant it. Try to get her into something else and she would promptly strip.

We went through a snow boot phase too. She wore those pink boots with EVERYTHING!

She is now 8, in the 2nd grade, and while she still prefers dresses and "pretty" clothes, her tastes are much more diverse and she understands the practicality of pants.

Indulge her phase and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. You will look back at this way too soon and think "where did my little princess go?"

Feb 16, 2012 04:50 pm
 Posted by  carol d.

Great article every Mom with daughters should read it!

Feb 16, 2012 04:58 pm
 Posted by  Susan U.

Growing up, my mother always allowed us to pick our clothing out (no matter how ugly, unmatching, or overdressing it was). I began wearing very puffy dresses and then when I was 8 I went through a phase wearing only belly shirts. Eventually I grew out of this phase but I believe my mom's decision to let me wear what I want allowed me to explore my gender. I believe each child should be able to explore their gender, no matter what that would be.

Feb 16, 2012 05:14 pm
 Posted by  Andrea D.

I think that people should be a kid once in a while. The story was cute and adorable. I Would wear a tiarra if I was a princess.

Feb 20, 2012 01:42 pm
 Posted by  Adam L.

I know my daughter loves her princess dresses and there is nothing more that a father wants than his daughter to be happy. I say let them live in their world as long as we can because they grow up to fast. Thanks Mommy Entourage!!!!

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