Available Now
MetroKids
Bookmark and Share Email this page Email Print this page Print Edit Module
Apr 24, 2012
06:03 AM
MomSpeak

Thoughts on Take Our Daughters and Sons To Work Day

Thoughts on Take Our Daughters and Sons To Work Day

Thursday (April 26) is national Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day. My daughter is excited to visit my office, and I’m equally thrilled to bring her along. It’s a treat for both of us.

As a working mom, it’s tempting to give up on finding the ever-elusive balance. I prefer to splurge on the occasional latte instead — a reward for flying by the seat of my pants to meet a deadline. Besides, moping about doesn’t make for teaching moments for my daughter.

So Thursday, I’ll bring her along to the office and hope to show her that mommy has an amazing job in a mostly male-dominated field of engineering, architecture and construction. Perhaps I’ve become too cynical over time, and of course, I’m still struggling with the guilt of being a full-time mom with a daytime career. Whatever is at play, I have little tolerance for the “survival” tips society throws us in an effort to find balance. I’m not surviving work; I’m living it.

"I'm Not Surviving Work, I'm Living It"

I’d like for my daughter to see firsthand, that co-workers can be great friends, that meeting a deadline can be a thrill and that helping meet an objective shared by many can be quite rewarding. I’ve had days where I brought home a round of ice cream to celebrate nothing more than crossing off all items on my illegible "To-do" list. I’d also like for my daughter to learn that playing Legos, reading The Hobbit together and baking a late-evening treat has nothing to do with surviving anything, but everything to do with focusing on the moment and enjoying it while it lasts. It’s a shift in priorities, rather than a balance.

Let’s not kid ourselves. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day. By the time a busy mom enjoys her second cup of coffee at the office, the time inequality has already been set in motion. What matters is the shift in priorities after work. I focus on the three remaining hours of quality time before the kids go to bed, rather than harping on the past eight.

Yes, working moms may be frazzled, swamped and crazy at times, but we can also be role models. Do we make it look easy? Sometimes… even if it’s anything but. Do we set a great example? I certainly try.  

When I take my daughter to work Thursday, I’ll take an extra five minutes to introduce her to the team. If she walks out later that day wanting to be an engineer, that would be wonderful. If she walks away knowing that both motherhood and a career can rock, that will be amazing.

Marion Kase is a Berks County, PA mom of a preschooler and a 4th grader. This post was adopted from her blog, Helicopter-Caterpillar.

Add your comment:
Edit Module
Advertisement
Edit Module

About This Blog

Outstanding Delaware Valley mom and dad bloggers share insights about their kids or themselves, family experiences or ways they handled parenting situations. Their items — often reposted from their blogs — reflect everyday experiences that anyone can relate to rather than political viewpoints or belief systems.

MomSpeak Contributors

Trish Adkins, Yoke
Jennifer Auer, Jersey Family Fun
Chris Bernholdt, DadNCharge
Stacy Heenan Biscardi, Wifty & Shifty
Hillary Chybinski, My Scraps
EJ Curran, Four Little Monsters
Darla DeMorrow, The Pregnant Entrepreneur
Rachée Fagg, Say It Rah-Shay
Raya Fagg, And Starring As Herself…MRSRFKJ
Mara Gorman, The Mother of All Trips
Stephanie Glover, A Grande Life
Erin Flynn Jay, Mastering the Mommy Track
Jean Ladden, Jean's Book Reviews
Brie Latini, ( . . . a breezy life)
Toni Langdon, Tickles and Time Outs
Lisa Lightner, A Day in Our Shoes
Jeanine Ludwikowski, Mommy Entourage
Kathryn M. Martin, Mamacado
Jeanne McCullough, Mom Hearts Pinot
Trina O'Boyle, O’Boy! Organic
Kelly Raudenbush, My Overthinking
Lindsey Schuster, Sisters to Sons
Sandra Telep, West Philly Mama
Marissa Kiepert Truong, Land of Once Upon a Time
Lisa Weinstein, The Mixed Up Brains of Lisa Weinstein
Shivaun Williams, Dar Liomsa (In My Opinion)
Paige Wolf, Spit That Out!

If you are a Philadelphia-area parenting blogger and would like to contribute to MomSpeak, please e-mail editor@metrokids.com.

 

Edit ModuleShow Tags

More on this topic »Mom Matters

Mothers' Influence on Local Celebs

Mothers' Influence on Local Celebs

How did the way their moms raised these local celebs help them achieve their goals?

5 Ways for Busy Moms to De-Stress

5 Ways for Busy Moms to De-Stress

Life gets crazy, but time for yourself is crucial. Try these stress-relief tips!

Coloring Books Aren't Just for Kids Anymore!

Coloring Books Aren't Just for Kids Anymore!

Adults relieve stress and recapture their childhood through coloring books geared toward the grown-up crowd.

Edit ModuleShow Tags

More on this topic »Mom's Health

Secondary Infertility

Secondary Infertility

Learn about the causes of and treatments for secondary infertility and tips on how to cope.

Edit ModuleShow Tags

MK Memo

MK Memo: Moms Know
'Titus' at the Painted Bride Art Center

'Titus' at the Painted Bride Art Center

See "Titus" at the Painted Bridge Art Center in Phill May 19-22.

Comments

How to Choose the Right Dance Class for Your Child

How to Choose the Right Dance Class for Your Child

Tips from a long-time dance instructor on what to look for in a dance program for your child.

Comments: 1

How to Raise an Earth-Conscious Child

How to Raise an Earth-Conscious Child

Tips to teach kids how to protect the environment.

Comments

DIY Redecorating in Vintage or Rustic Style

DIY Redecorating in Vintage or Rustic Style

Get some tips on redecorating your home with a vintage or rustic style.

Comments

The 2016 Kids Corner Music Festival

The 2016 Kids Corner Music Festival

The best of kindie music comes to World Cafe Live in Philadelphia on April 3.

Comments

Edit ModuleShow Tags
{/if}